I am tempted to conclude that . . . to believe that . . . always and ever . . .
Love begets love . . . but not always
Kindness given is kindness returned . . . but not always
And yet, and still, every now and then, we humans get it, like the proverbial Three Bears, just right. And when we do, it is whelming and overwhelming.
One of those every now and then deeds is the act of showing up. That’s it – showing up. . . being there . . . what we preacherly people like to refer to as the ministry of presence . . . and sometimes, that’s all about being a face in the crowd, for sometimes, it is the crowd that is the whelming thing . . . the silent witnesses to one’s grief and pain and joy and remembering . . . as in a funeral . . .
Last night was one of those times when love begot love and kindness kindness . . . and the husband who was saying his faith farewells to his dear companion beheld the crowd and pronounced himself overwhelmed . . .
The next day, I am struck by so many I know who eschew things like funerals because . . . why? Because they are so hard? Perhaps. So final? Surely. So sad? Definitely.
But sometimes, we’re called to do the hard, the final, the sad thing . . . sometimes it isn’t about us at all. Sometimes it’s just about being another face in the crowd of surrounding love.
So the next time you dither, not wanting to go, you might think about that and you might go . . . go because you need to . . . go because you want to . . . and even when you don’t want to, go, because your presence matters to those most heart-struck in their loss . . . your presence will whelm them . . . and that is a good thing.