Showing posts with label learning. Show all posts
Showing posts with label learning. Show all posts

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

I Learned Something Today


I learned something today

listening to Bill speak about comfort as the gospel
that God’s consoling, comforting, relational presence
actually is not what the gospel is about but rather
is the gospel – the good news – the thing hoped for
the evidence of that unseen – the elusive ‘it’ of Jesus –
comfort . . . consolation . . . love . . . mother love . . . 
clasping to the breast in fierce . . . challenging . . . 
account demanding . . . calming . . . consoling . . . 
Love

How about that?


Sunday, February 2, 2014

Playing in the Snow

When I was 7, I had my first (remembered) solo experience of sled riding down the street where I lived.  I watched others first, navigating the teasing boys at the bottom of the hill who formed a line across the road.  At 7, I did not understand that they would get out of the way of my sled.  Apparently neither did my compatriots, as each flew down the side of the street until just before the parked car, jerking hard left at the last minute to sweep between car and boys and onward.

Confident I understood the process, I jumped on my sled and down I went.  I have never had that level of confidence again.  As I careened towards the car, I froze, head up, as the car and I rapidly drew in to our own date with destiny.  Head smacked bumper.  The rest, including my unease around playing in the snow, is history.

Flash forward.  I am 58.  Younger friends decide we should go tubing.  I cheerfully agree.  It was only later, alone, that I started to get nervous: I’m 58 years old!  What was I thinking?  I can’t do this!  I’ll break my fool neck!  And so it went.

I consulted with son Ben (my go-to person on all things physical), who calmly reassured me how safe tubing is, walking me through what it would be like step by step (everyone should have a son so patient with a fearful mom).

So I layered up and on we went.  The journey was, of course, the adventure.

Just a few miles shy of our destination, our driver Melissa politely pulled to the side of the road to allow faster drivers to pass, as I was internally screaming noooo!  We were in West Virginia now and there aren’t shoulders on the road to speak of in West Virginia, even when it looks like there are (as when deep ditches are covered with snow).  We promptly sank – gently, ever so gently, in to the snow-covered crevasse and there we sat until rescued, which was in pretty short order, as Snow Shoe has employees and equipment for just such an occasion as this (shout out to our rescuers - thanks, guys!).*

On to lunch and then the great tubing adventure.  What a hoot!  There were injuries** (aren’t there always?), but we did all survive the experience with lots of laughter and the simple joy of being outside (it was a warm winter’s day after a long January of sub-zero temperatures where we live, so this was our first time outside in a long time – glorious!)

For a brief moment, I saw the folks learning to ski on the bunny slope beside the tube lanes and thought to myself, I could do that.  Ah, confidence.

It passed as quickly as it came as I hobbled home, but now I know some things I didn’t know when I was 7:

1. The boys will get out of the way.

2. I could do that.

3. Snow and sun are a heady combination.

4. Laughter and play are great medicine.

5. One bad experience need not a lifetime of fear make.

But most of all, I was reminded that God’s tender caring looks like a son talking his mother down . . . like
Erin, Deb, Melissa & me (fashion-forward
in Ben's hat and many layers
strangers stopping to help . . . like car rescue guys competent to the task . . . like friends laughing helplessly as they roll in the snow. . . like expanding possibilities . . . like grace.

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*When you get discouraged about the state of our kindness or lack towards each other, I want you to know that virtually every car passing by slowed down to see if they could help.  The one noteworthy exception entertained us mightily as they sped by, bumper stickers hailing their political persuasion and beliefs, leaving us in their wake, confirmed in our mutual preconception that such folk aren’t nearly as kind as they say they are on t.v. and leaving me to have to internally apologize to neighbors from the north (I thought the license plate was from Pennsylvania or New York: turns out it’s a specialty plate from Virginia).

**Injuries:

1. I was first – fitting as the eldest, I suppose.  It didn’t occur to me (remember, I actually had to call my child to talk me through this) that the bottom of the tube was resting on the actual ground and that resting my bottom on its bottom meant I was sliding butt first down a snowy pathway that just might have bumps and rocks.  And it did.  Thus am I one very sore puppy today.

2. Erin was next – it was our very last run – and somehow she came to a dead stop at the bottom of the run and was ejected from her tube, hitting her head.  Nothing serious, but boy, did it hurt.

3. Melissa was the last to go down.  Heading out the parking lot, we were almost home free, when she stepped onto a sheet of ice and went down hard, landing flat on her back, the kind of hard, scary fall that makes you worry about broken bones and concussions and such.  Good fortune that nothing was broken and home safely we went.

Deb was the only one of us to escape the day without injury, but all of us are aching today.

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

A Vacation of Hiatuses: 10 Learnings from Being Away

hi·a·tus  [hahy-ey-tuhs]  noun, plural hi·a·tus·es, hi·a·tus:  a break or interruption in the continuity of a work, series, action, etc. Dictionary.com

va·ca·tion  [vey-key-shuhn, vuh-]  noun:  a period of suspension of work, study, or other activity, usually used for rest, recreation, or travel; recess or holiday.

Gone for a week on vacation with son and grandson in tow, for the first time in a long time, the computer stayed off (well, all but once and should have stayed off then) . . . links in the ether were suspended . . . fingers did no key tapping . . . FB was not checked . . . blog was not posted . . . and all in all, it was good and very good.

I was having a vacation of hiatuses.  And boy, did I need them.

Learnings from this vacation, this series of breaking interruptions in my life continuity while in Chicago I share . . .

1. Even when you catch a cold, vacation is good.

2. Sons and grandsons are great travel buddies.

3. Always have a note pad handy to write down those unforgettables . . . like Rowen proclaiming that friend Anita was indeed the best resource for information, because, you see, “she’s an artist and artists know everything!”

4. Skipping is the best way of travel by foot – you get there quicker and it’s way more fun along the way.  So skipping was Rowen that his new nickname on this trip (dubbed by his father) was Skippy Longstocking.

5. Conversation in the hot late hours of the night with friends new and old around the kitchen table bring wisdom as well as mirth, ponderings and silliness in no particular order – and they are all their own blessing to be carried back into ordinary time.

6. A good humility check – everyone does fine without you while you’re gone.  Doesn’t mean you’re not missed, just that you’re not the center of anyone’s universe – which is how it should be, eh?

7. The best use of things is not always their intended use.  Sometimes a portable lap desk makes a better back cushion than it ever did a desk.

8. Schedules are put into the ridiculous light they deserve as a boy child goes willingly into sleep each night when his eyes can no longer sustain their open-lid status, the day having finally, at the last, overcome him.  Why do we not always simply go to sleep when we are tired?

9. Friends are treasures.

10. Birds are not benign.  Threatened, like all other of God’s critters, they will fight back – even on a mini-golf course, even when you mean them no harm.

Home again, tired, still fighting the cold, happy and warm, wrapped in love and good memories.





Tuesday, August 14, 2012

8 Things I Didn't Learn in Kindergarten*


1. That the other kids are as scared, confused and disoriented as I am.  

2. That eating paste is not a capital offense.

3. That the one who colors outside the lines will probably invent something marvelous and wonderful to behold.

4. That teachers are people too – they will make mistakes and I can hurt their feelings, even if I don’t mean to.

5. This too shall pass – for nothing is forever.

6. You won’t know you’re having the best time of your life until its past.

7. Some days, the sun shining on your face is the best gift you could ever wish for.

8. I don’t know everything and I never will.


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*The title is inspired by Robert Fulghum's All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten.  The link takes you to his man page because his August 8 poem with its note to would-be thieves is worth reading.  If you want to check out to the book, just click 'books' on the nav bar at the top of the page.

** I attended the Alexander School for kindergarten and my framed kindergarten diploma hangs on my office wall alongside the other life honors of which I am proud.

***This is dedicated to my grand-son Rowen, who has begun his own countdown to kindergarten.  May it be will with you, wee boy of my heart.

Wednesday, November 9, 2011

I Don't Know How, but I Can Try


I am learning to play the cello.        

Or maybe it’s better to say the cello is learning to play me.

It is the instrument that is my body that is the ‘problem’.

Just when I get this thing lined up to my ear and my back straight and my thumb and fingers on the left hand positioned correctly, and my knees holding the cello just so, my right hand forgets entirely what it’s doing and the bow goes up and down instead of sideways, which, trust me, ain’t pretty!  Or the right hand gets the bow going just right and the left hand slides down the neck and the screech sound is like nothing you’ve ever heard on the planet and never want to.

Whoever said a 56 year old has any business learning to play the cello anyway?

I did.

And I am loving it.

Loving the rare moments when sound turns to music . . . loving that it is my body and not my mind that must do the ‘work’ . . . loving learning . . . loving with new ears the classical music stations on the radio . . . loving the ritual of the care of the instrument . . . loving being a student, knowing that I have much to learn . . . loving the graceful humility of I don’t know how but I can try . . .